Turn, Turn, Turn…
Many couples call for therapy with the presenting problem of “arguing”. Actually arguing or having heated discussions with your partner is not in itself always a huge problem. Some couples can really go at it, yelling and screaming and yet still have good solid marriages. Whether or not you argue is not the important thing. what is important is what you do after a fight.
Resolving Conflicts in Relationships
Every relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think about the kinds of conflicts that happen in your daily life. These are typical:
- Disagreements over who should do what
- Disagreements over how things should be done
- Conflicts of personality and style
- arguments about how one partner treats the other
Arguing with Your Spouse: The Emotional Hijacking
Do you argue with your spouse? Arguments are normal in a healthy relationship. Two people, different views on the world, different histories, and different experiences- are bound to argue at times. Arguments can be constructive. But in some circumstances, arguments can be destructive to your relationship leaving you depleted and devastated. These article discuses a type of arguing that leaves a trail of broken relationships in its wake. And, the fact is, that our brains natural functioning can actually work against our loving bonds.Our brains are much better suited to war than love. What is adaptive for survival and has helped keep us alive as a species, can, in some cases be deadly for our relationships.